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Sunday, April 18, 2010

Supportive People in Your Life

Trent from The Simple Dollar wrote this great post on The People in Your Life. I particularly like this portion about having Supportive People in Your Life.

The supportive people in your life often make all the difference between success and failure. They tell you that you can do it rather than telling you that you can't. Yes, sometimes we do attempt things that are simply beyond our reach, but we can never succeed if we never try, and we never try if we're constantly told that we can't do it. A supportive person tells you that you can do it, not that you can't. They encourage you to stretch yourself beyond where you think you can go. A truly supportive person can be aggressive and pushing, like a great coach. They encourage you to step beyond what you think you can do and push yourself even further than that. They point you upwards when things look down. They don't abandon you when you fail. Instead, they stick by you and tell you that things will shape up. They encourage the better aspects of who you are. Either by example or by advice, they encourage the more positive aspects of your talents and your personality. The more you use them, the more prevalent they become as a natural part of who you are and how you behave. They make you feel good about who you are. No one is perfect and it's easy to get caught up in the negatives, especially when the people around you regularly point them out. Instead, look for the people who point out the positives and make you feel better about the person you naturally are. They won't expect you to be someone else to please them. If people are truly supportive, you don't have to put on an act just to please them. You can be yourself and your natural positives simply come to the forefront. You need to seek out the supportive people in your life and work on those relationships. Make an effort to spend more time around the people that make you feel good about yourself and what you're doing and give you a sense that you can do it, whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish. If you're trying to adopt new habits, seek out people who already have those habits ingrained in their life and will help you with theirs. If they are truly supportive, they won't care that you make mistakes (aside from merely wanting to help you past them). That type of attitude from the people around you makes everything possible.

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