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Sunday, October 22, 2017

Peaceful Sunday

Some days you wake up and all is right with the world.  Today is such a day.

This morning I was forced by two whining dogs to get up, get dressed and take them for a walk.  The thing I miss most about my old place is being able to open the door and let Buddy out in the yard.  I must face it.  Things have changed and I have to change with it.

I really am adapting to the recent changes in my life quite well.  Sometimes there is that little quiver of anxiety in the back of my mind but then I ask myself is it just fear of the unknown?  Yes, I'm sure it is.

I know there are people - thrill seekers in my mind - that search for new experiences.  I've never considered myself one yet when required, I did take the first scary step of a new adventure.

I followed my ex-husband to a small town in Louisiana when I had always been a big town (Houston) girl.  I married and then got divorced ten years later.  I left the small town and went back to the big city with two small children in tow.  That was a big step.

I have worked (mostly) in law offices, changing jobs when the jobs no longer filled my need for whatever reason. That was a big step for a single working mom.

I had several longtime relationships, learning what I did and didn't want in my life.  Staying single was a big step when I yearned for company and security.

And the two biggest changes of all for me:  First, when both of my kids had grown up and left the nest and I became an empty-nester.  That was really strange and hard.  Much harder than it was adjusting to a new little person and schedule.

The second big change was retirement.  That was very hard for me.  It took me - and is still taking me - a lot of trial and error to learn what to do with my day and what life is about if you take work out of the equation.

Gosh, so many changes I've been through.  Big steps all.  Hahaha.  Most a lot more difficult than getting up and walking the dogs before I've had my coffee!!  But this is another pattern that has been broken and is being reinvented.

Yet, I  feel very blessed and comfortable that I have faced the difficulty of physically packing and moving my house and am now rebuilding my life in a new apartment, living with my daughter, stretching my money differently and finding new hobbies.  I am at peace and that feels really, really good.


  1. Wonderful post. Life can be good when we appreciate what we have.

  2. Barbara, it is great you're at peace with this latest move. You have stood on your own throughout your life. Well done! I hope this latest change continues to work well for you.

  3. Well, kids and dogs will get you through a lot in life. And so may you thrive in your new surroundings.

  4. Barbara what a wonderful post. For someone who doesn't like change and adventure you've sure had one haven't you?
    Proof that we are all so much stronger than we realize. Damn girl, good job! :-)

  5. You have shown your strength by adapting as you have. Change can be good for it shakes us out of our ruts and makes us look in other directions for our happiness and comfort. It also makes us realize that while it can be a bit scary, change also makes us realize we have a lot more going for us than we thought.
    Got to admit that I would find it unsettling not to be able to let Callie out the door every time she asks but perhaps by making me go with her, it would do us both good. Think you are handling this quite well.

  6. You sound very adaptable and resilient! Absolutely vital life skills that many people just do not have. We can all learn a thing or two from you!