A Boomer Lifestyle Blog

Monday, January 15, 2018

Old Friends

My BFF had a second stroke yesterday and is in the hospital.  This lady and I had our first apartments together when we were 19.  We have lived near and far from each other but never lost touch.  We were single parents together and now share grandchildren stories with each other.  She is not able to speak clearly.  The only thing anyone understands is when she says "I'm better". 

She has smoked all of her life.  She has been "going to quit" for so many years.  I think she quit taking her blood pressure medicine a while back as she told me she was off her medicine.  I didn't ask her which ones.  If I had told her this was dangerous it would not have made a difference.  She is stubborn.  Now she is very sick. 

Do you have a long time friend?  The thought of losing her is so sad but the thought of her being unable to speak is almost as heartbreaking.  She loves to talk on the phone and keeps up with so many people this way. 

In honor of my friend's illness, take the time to call you friend today and share your love.  You never know when it might be you or them. 


  1. I'm 46 and have a friend of mine we have known each other since I was 9 years old (she is 50). She has a bunch of health issues because of smoking and weight gain (over 350 pounds). After 32 years, I stopped smoking just this last March. I still contact her frequently. Good advice...always keep in touch with the ones you care about.

  2. I hope your friend gets good physio and rehab -- may she be able to get her voice back!

  3. One of my friends has been recently diagnosed with dimentia. I am so sad about it and don’t live near him and his wife so I could help them or even visit. It is so sad and has made the dark days of winter so much worse.

    I hope your friend makes a complete recovery, Barbara.

  4. I'm so sorry to hear this about your friend. I have tried to reconnect with a lot of my old friends and Facebook has made it possible in many cases. My longest friendship has been with my friend Iwalani. She was 2 1/2 and I was 3 when were first met and became great friends. We have been there for each other over the years no matter what. We have rejoiced amd mourned, waited for test results, encouraged, laughed, cried, supported and loved each other for almost our entire lives. We are very different people and our lives have taken very diverse paths, but we are there for each other no matter what. Either one of us could call the other and we would be there for each other no matter what time of day or night or what else we might have planned. Love her so very much!

  5. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I hope she will recover and take the wake up call so you can go on together.

  6. Barbara, I am so sorrry to hear about your friend. I just spoke to my best friend who I had my first apartment with since the age of 18 as well. It's like we never miss a beat you know? I hope your friend regains all her speech and motor skills.