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Tuesday, May 7, 2019

Telephone Conversations

I have a dear friend of over 40 years.  We had our first apartment together with another girl.  We went through dating, marriage, childbirth, divorce and now aging, together. 

Yesterday we had a long telephone conversation.  She has always been a telephone person.  I have always been an I'll pop over and see you type of person.  I think part of it has to do with working in law offices all my life, hence constantly being on the phone.  This also means I was surrounded by adults all day and did not miss the adult contact that some professions lack.  In fact, when I got home or on the weekend I never wanted to talk on the phone and didn't feel guilty if I didn't answer.  My friend, who is a very social person in the first place, was a kindergarten teacher so adult conversation was a guilty pleasure of hers.

I realized that evening after we talked that phone conversations just do not do it for me.  I want to sit down with a cup of coffee and look at you.  I want to be enveloped in that special world that we share.  I want the intimacy of sharing thoughts together. 

I always knew, and everyone close to me knows, I want my conversations short and sweet.  Hello.  Goodbye.  That's me.  I always felt I was the strange one.  Now I realize that I want a deeper contact than I can get with a phone conversation.  I thought that was very interesting. 

Today is another doctor day.  Endocrinologist.  You know I'm hoping she says I can't have the cataract surgery.  On the other hand, as everyone shares with me, I would love to see clearly again. 

I watched the Houston Rockets vs. Golden State Warriors last night.  I'm not a big sports fan.  I used to watch the Rockets when my law firm had great tickets I could use but I didn't really care for it on TV.  Long story short.  We are 2-2 and it is terribly exciting.  These players have incredible talent.  If you remember, I decided that watching basketball would be one of my new hobbies. 

Finding hobbies that don't cost an arm and a leg and where you don't end up with gadgets that you don't have room for and no one needs, is a problem.  So basketball is working out just fine on the no cost, no residue front.  Except that I think I need a Rockets shirt even though I sit in the living room and watch the game.  Ok, maybe not totally cost free.


  1. I prefer face to face conversations. Nothing like a chat over a cup of tea or coffee.

    I had book club today. A chat about a book we’ve all read snd a snack afterwards if one of my favourite things. The books are provided by the library so it is a fun and inexpensive treat.

  2. Go for a Rocket shirt!
    I get the conversation in person thing.
    I am on the phone on day long. I refuse to answer it most evening unless it is a parent.
    Otherwise, nope not talking. So I understand. And besides it is nice to have coffee and share in person, the whole vibe of that is far better to me. A connection.